If you know me at all, then you know that my brother and I grew up completely inseparable. We were practically conjoined at the hip. So when I grew up, and began to explore the world of dating; it was weird for him to have this other man take so much of my time and attention. When I got engaged things began to get worse. So by the time I called off the engagement; my brother wasn’t there for me. I had distanced myself in my pursuit of another relationship, and he had begun to move on. And then it felt as though he replaced me when he got engaged himself. What happened? Was it my fault that our tight bond seemed to have been broken?
And that’s when I realized; it was time to take him on a date.
Reason 1: Sharing
Sometimes you just need to reconnect. As you grow up, you start missing out on pieces of each other’s lives. It can be as simple as listening to how their week is going, to finding out the details of their wedding planning. It also gives you a chance to share your own stories, struggles and where life is taking you. Having a close brother means you always have someone to tell your secrets to or the things you can’t tell mom and dad. So do that again! Share with each other!
Reason 2: Listening
The most important piece of this is an opportunity to truly hear about what is going in their life. Like dating, you are listening to what the other person has to say. If you listen then you get to know them again. You can find out how you can support and love them in the best way possible. Don’t dominate the conversation about everything that is going on with you. Self-centeredness may be what drove you apart. So make sure you purposefully listen.
Reason 3: Fun
With the stresses of life you forget what it is like to be a kid again. Sometimes each of you just need to get away from the reality of life and play and have some fun. I just took him out to a theme park where we were able to talk and just be brother and sister again. It was just the two of us, like we had been together for years and years before either of us became “adults.”
So, the next time you get a chance; take him on a date. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. It can be just grabbing a cup of coffee and dedicating time to catching up on all the excitement that has been happening. That way you can get reconnected, and experience life together again.